Whether you have terms and conditions indicates whether you have options. Almost immediately, you present yourself as a doormat or a dreamgirl.
Yes! Remember this rule because it’s a genuine one.
A man will respect you as far as your own self respect goes. There is no middle ground. Ask yourself a question, would you respect a person that is perfectly laid out for you to step on and trample? The same goes with a too nice girl aka the doormat.
It has nothing to do with being nice or impolite. You need to respect and appreciate yourself first because no one will do it for you!
We already established that a man likes a challenge, likes to hunt and likes to be superior. What happens when he reaches all three marks? Like every simpleminded little kid he starts to throw tantrums and get bored.
It’s your choice to either meekly accept it and let the child in him prevail or to stand up to your convictions and make him behave like a grown up and appreciate you.
It’s a constant fight between his expectations and your convictions. He wants you to be independent yes but also he wants you to be like his mother. And we all know that it’s one step away from being a total doormat…
And frankly mother type is the one that gets cheated the most. They do nothing wrong, to the contrary, they are perfect but it’s the bitch that gets to steal the guy. That turns him on.
Don’t get me wrong I’m not encouraging anybody to become a bitchy lover and make a guy cheat with you on his wife. A big NO.
However, you can’t allow to fall into the category of mommy-doormat. You might as well kiss your relationship goodbye.
What’s the general rule?
Do not appear to be mothering him! Don’t ask him the questions his mother would ask. Don’t smother him. In other words, don’t let your relationship become boring and your conversations predictable.
A man knows which woman will give in to last-minute requests.
It’s male sixth sense. Women have their intuition, men can find the perfect victim.If you yield to early or too eagerly you will regret it and be seen as a doormat. A man will often test the grounds and try to coerce a woman to leave her comfort zone and give in to him. Forsaking your plans in order to meet him sends a clear signal: my time is less important than yours, my plans can always be rearranged for you.
The above behaviour suits the doormat not the bitch. The bitch will calmly and confidently turn down anything that might undermine her position in the relationship. She establishes herself in a fortress of decisiveness and strong will. She knows then to say yes and when to put her foot down.
Be advised: it’s not about being a capricious princess but about standing your ground and keeping to your views.
A man must understand that his time and your time are equally precious.
Today, we challenge you to create a compelling setting for your story.
Braxton was a typical small, sleepy town located in a godforsaken part of a prosperous country. It was a home to all sorts of strange individuals as well as some entirely regular folks. They all mingled on the main market square, stopping by a century old wishing well to drop a coin or two out of habit mostly, as no one local believed in superstitions and omens. But it was good for the occasional tourist.
In the early twentieth century Braxton was voted as the most boring and dreary place in this part of a country. The dwellers of Braxton couldn’t agree more.
However you would be mistaken if you thought that there was completely nothing to see in this hollow shell of a town.
For starters the town was circled by a tight ring of various kinds of trees and bushes. The wild paths were often crossed by brave animals and even braver hunters with rifles.
On the most south side of Braxton one could find pleasantly small lake with nenuphars and water lilies. It is a place frequented by all – people and animals.
When you entered the town from the north, you were welcomed by a towering shadow of the small basilica consecrated to Saint Mary. The silver dome of the basilica towered above the town as the highest peak in Braxton. The white walls shone from a far, guiding the weary traveler home.
Being right on the verge of getting something generates a desire that has to be satisfied.
The author argues that “Men often admit, “You always want what you can’t have.””, and that is absolutely true. Never show him that he has you in his grip. Never show him that you are completely his. It all just makes him stop showering you with attention and lay back with his hands folded behind his head. He got you after all, hook, line and sinker.
Every so often remind him that you are and never will be his property. You may graciously allow him to bask in your presence and enjoy your company but you are your own woman.
The nice girl will doom herself from the beginning. She will answer his every call and cancel her personal plans and adjust her schedule only to meet the man.
Going out of your way to meet him is a big no no.
From time to time remind him who has to chase whom. When he tells you about his plans for you at the last minute, gently remind him that your time is precious and schedule tight. You will meet him when it’s most convenient for you. And he will get out of his way to make it happen.
When a woman doesn’t give in easily and doesn’t appear docile or submissive, it becomes more stimulating to obtain her.
Again we go back to the cycle the hunter and the hunted. Men love it, it’s like a primal tail that was left behind by the caveman.
The most thrilling chase is the one when the prey is ambitious, clever and tricky to catch. The more of a challenge you are to him, the more exciting it is for him to finally get you.
In every movie and romance, the mysterious woman gets all the interest. The woman clad in black velvets, with a blood red lipstick and a slim cigarette will get the man of the hour. Become that woman. Don’t let your docile side overcome the sexy one. Change into femme fatale and observe that thrill in his eyes.
However, you cannot seem too inapproachable or uninterested. Men like danger, as long as it does not harm them. They need that initial incentive, that spark in your eye, a little nod in his direction, a small gesture.
If the choice is between her dignity and having a relationship, the bitch will prioritize her dignity above all else.
Aretha sung R.E.S.P.E.C.T. not without a reason. If you want respect from your environment, from your man, you must respect yourself first. The good girl will fall head over heels for a guy and forget about her needs, her values and her respect.
The bitch will never do that. She has strong views and convictions and she won’t sell them cheap no matter how attractive the guy might be. Ultimately it is not worth it.
All those strong qualities attract men. They are not afraid of the bitch but they desire her, she seems to them a reliable, capable woman who is not afraid to stand her ground.
If you do not need a guy he starts needing you like air. If you don’t follow him blindly he turns into a believer and an acolyte ready for pilgrimage. If you don’t depend on him and treat him like a life rope he starts needing you like air.
Do the reverse, act like a doormat and he will stomp over you and leave you behind like a used up tissue.
The biggest variable between a bitch and a woman who is too nice is fear. The bitch shows that she’s not afraid to be without him.
With or without him… A song should have that title.
It is a fact that unfortunately most women are governed by an irrational fear of being left alone. By loneliness and prospect of no life after a relationship. They seems to think that without a man by their side they will be empty, half-good and hollow.
What an absurd view!
There is no such thing as a two halves stuck together by glue. There are various people that wander around the paths of life and have chance encounters. Some will fit together like gloves, some need more friction to get it going and some just won’t fit no matter what. We are searching sometimes our whole lives. We certainly can’t settle for the next best thing when there is so much territory to explore. There are billions of people on the world. Do you really think that this one person is assigned to you for life?
Never be afraid to step out of your comfort zone and taste freedom, taste life without him. It is necessary not only for the health of your relationship but mostly for your mental health.
Your strength will come from this knowledge: there is life without him and it will be a damn good life – single or not.
Act like a prize and you’ll turn him into a believer.
Of course you can never, never, absolutely never (yes repeat it as many times as necessary) put yourself down and undersell your qualities. Yes, you are that awesome, yes you are that beautiful,, yes you are that smart and yes he is incredibly lucky to have met you. Period. Really don’t add any afterthoughts. In fact don’t think and just lean back and enjoy the look of utter admiration on his face.
Man becomes elevated by the woman.
Another issue the doormat has and the dreamgirl aka the bitch doesn’t is the need to compare herself with other woman. Girl, understand one thing, you are exceptional and one of a kind. No need for comparisons. We look as good as we feel deep inside our hearts and minds.
A plus is that the man you are with will appreciate your confidence and the fact that you know your worth. It’s as simple as that.
It is your attitude about yourself that a man will adopt.
The way you perceive yourself is the way your surroundings sees you. In other words don’t put yourself down or point out flaws and shortcomings. If you don’t notice it, nobody around you does.
It is a truth generally known that men are not the most perceptive species on Earth. Therefore do not make it easier for them to notice tiny, irrelevant details about yourself. Think of the first date and the courting period like an extended job interview. You can make good impression only once. You want to ‘sell’ yourself in the best way possible for the best price possible.
And no, the price is not negotiable, you take what you get and the man has to thank gods that a beautiful and perfect creature like yourself is interested in him and allows him to bask in her fabulous company.
Wouldn’t you agree Dear Ladies?
If you start out dependent, it turns him off. But if it is something he can’t have, it becomes more of a challenge for him to get it.
Honestly this must be one of the most basic and thoroughly valid principles in the book. It cannot be emphasized enough how important it is to make a man fight for your attention and perceive you as the most intricate game challenge.
Man usually want the most what they can’t have. It is as simple and as complicated as that.
Most men will never notice your flaw or shortcomings until you point them out yourself. So why would you want to do it? You may think your nose is big and does not fit your face but he will never see it the way you do. For him it’s either just a nose or an adorable part of your physique.
You may falsely assume that being too bold and beautiful, self assured and generally confident is unwomanly and brass. Don’t worry, humility is not a serious flaw of character and can be easily cured as the author says. She points out that nothing is gained by being too humble or putting yourself down.
Golden rule: know your worth and stick to it, never let anyone talk you out of your convictions.